The following “Dear Abby” letter appeared in yesterday’s online edition of the Reporternews (Abilene, TX).
Dear Abby 9-2-09
Dear Abby: My husband, “Adam,” and I bought a lovely, secluded home in the country. We have no children, and our nearest neighbor is a half-mile away. Now it seems like my husband plans to spend the rest of his life in the nude. He loves it and often tells me how “relaxing” it feels. I must admit his temperament has improved.
Please don’t get me wrong — I’m not a prude. But Adam goes for days on end without wearing a stitch unless we’re going out or someone is coming over. He works in the yard, cuts the grass, hikes in our woods naked — and has a head-to-toe golden tan.
I don’t mind seeing my husband in the buff. He’s clean and well-groomed and nearly as trim as when we first married. (We both are.) My problem is, Adam is constantly after me to join him. I admire his nerve, but just can’t bring myself to go outdoors with nothing on, despite the privacy. My biggest hang-up is fear of getting caught.
Last month, Adam was mowing the lawn and didn’t hear the UPS truck come down our long driveway. Caught “red-handed,” he nonchalantly signed for the package, wished the driver a good day and went back to work. The driver winked and gave me a thumbs-up as he drove away.
Should I give in to Adam’s request and give his nude lifestyle a try? I know it would mean a lot to him. I told him I’d follow your advice.
— “Eve” in Upstate New York
Dear “Eve”: I’m not opposed to it. From everything I have read, and from readers’ testimonials, the naturalist lifestyle is healthy and upbeat, so give it a try. Just be sure to wear sunscreen.
P.S. By December, your problem should no longer be a problem.
Aside from “Dear Abby” using the word naturalist when she meant naturist, her advice is good. By December, the husband probably won’t be spending much time nude in the yard but that’s certainly no reason stop being nude indoors. I’d also add that “Eve” has nothing to lose (except some body hang-ups) by giving it a try. As for “getting caught,” the property is secluded and they have a reasonable expectation of privacy so what’s the problem?
As for the letter itself, stating, “I’m not a prude” sends up a red flag. Many who claim to not be prudes, really are. She seems to have some body shame issues but if she gives it a try and discovers how relaxing, comfortable, liberating, and fun being nude outdoors can be, maybe she’ll be able to overcome them.
Believe me, if I had a secluded home in the country, I would definitely be nude as much as possible. I hope “Eve” will try it and give it a good, honest trial period. She might just enjoy it as much as her husband does.