Here’s a question I saw on Tumblr today: “Mass participation in pubic hair removal has lead to hairless genitals now being the norm. Would mass erections at nudist events and locations lead to better acceptance of the erection as a natural state of the penis?”
In my mind, the answer is “No.” The natural, default state of the penis is flaccid. While an erection is a natural occurrence, it occurs because there has been some stimulus that has caused blood to flow into the penis causing a physiological change from its default flaccid state. An erection is, therefore, a stimulated state which might be a natural reaction to various stimuli that that man may or may not have any control over but is is not the default or natural state. Even if sporting an erection were become normalized in a nudist setting, it still would not be the natural state of the penis because an erection normally requires some kind of stimulus.
The subject of erections in a nudist setting is a difficult issue. While a boner may be a “natural” occurrence, most nudists would probably agree that they are relatively rare in nudist settings. I know I’ve never gotten an erection at a nudist location or event nor have I witnessed any. An erection might be a natural reaction to stimuli but it’s quite likely to cause offense, particularly if the man flaunts it with disregard for others. Those of us who witness an erection can’t know beyond a reasonable doubt the man’s intentions and are likely to assume the worst. Most will see it as overt sexual intent, not as a complement. I sincerely doubt that increased exposure to erect penises will normalize them or make them appear friendlier.
I’d hesitate to say that hairless genitalia is the norm although it is a very popular option. Has a large enough sample been surveyed to statistically determine if it is the norm? Even if it turns out that it is the norm, shaved genitalia is not the natural state of our genitals. Pubic hair is the default among most post-pubescent human beings. Removing the pubic hair is a change to the natural state.
I subscribe to a Tumblr feed called “Just Shower Thoughts” which is basically thoughts that might pop into your head while you’re taking a shower. Now and then, I see one that causes me to stop and think.
I saw this one today: “We are born naked, but most people never live a 24 hour period naked in their life.”
I think there may be some truth to that statement. Aside from sleeping, I can’t recall ever being nude for more than a few hours at a stretch. Perhaps while visiting a nudist camp I may have been nude continuously for maybe five or six hours at the most. This past Saturday, I may have been nude for four or five hours and then had to get dressed to travel to the house party where I was naked for a little over three-and-a-half hours. That may have been longest total time I’ve been nude in a single day but it wasn’t continuous. That might be a personal achievement to shoot for.
Of course, there are many nudists and naturists who do spend extensive periods of time without wearing a single item of clothing along with some other special cases.
Yesterday I attended a house party at the home of a Dayton Warm Breezes member. It wasn’t really much different than other house parties I’ve attend except that everyone was naked and, of course, we sat on towels. In an email to the membership today, the hose reported that there were 34 people present.
At one point everyone introduced themselves although I probably only remember a few names. I did know one couple, whom I’d met several years ago at a landed club. There was a hot tub available but I didn’t venture outside to take advantage of it nor did I engage the services of the masseuse who had a table set up in the living room.
Most of the guests were my age or a little older. There were a few “younger” people as well. Men were in the majority but there were a fair number of women present. Incidentally, the club membership is 1/3 female.
I still haven’t decided whether or not to join the club. There’s a house party in a couple of weeks at another member’s home. I kind of enjoyed the social aspect. As much as I enjoy nude solitude, it often nice to have others to talk to.
Naked Pizza Haiku
Pizza whilst naked
With friends early one morning.
We were all hungry.
From my personal journal:
I don’t have to tell my gentle readers how much I enjoy taking a shower. I’m sure many don’t really appreciate their time in the shower; they only see it as a necessity for the utilitarian task of getting clean. They probably don’t take the time to enjoy the sensation of the water droplets massaging their bare skin. They probably don’t take the time to relish the fact that every part of their body is exposed to the air and given a chance to breathe, even if only for five or ten minutes. Our skin is one continuous organ and it all needs to be exposed to air and light. Yes, I enjoy and relish my showers and afterward I am reluctant to cover my clean and natural state with clothing that blocks the air and light while restricting circulation and movement. Alas, I live in a society that has been a war with nature, particularly its own nature, for countless generations. I beseech you, isn’t it about time we broke the cycle and stopped fighting this war against ourselves?
This morning I received an email about the upcoming nude swim. Apparently, a lot of new people are expected to attend, among them some who have never been nude with others. This raised the question of whether or not to allow first timers to wear swimsuits. Although the club’s policy is to require nudity at such an event, they seem to be willing to allow for an adjustment period and make it clothing optional for the first hour or so then after that nudity would be required in the pool.
I’m not sure how I feel about this change in policy. Of course, I’m not a member of the club (yet) so it’s not my place to question their rules. It’s their club and their event. However, it got me thinking about the idea of “transition periods” for first time nudists. I know that many landed clubs allow first time visitors to ease into getting completely nude but nearly all of them require full nudity in their pools, hot tubs, and saunas. I’m also aware that they don’t own this facility and are simply renting it for the evening.
To my mind, if you’re going to a nude swim you should have an expectation that nudity will be a requirement. I understand that some might be a little shy or apprehensive about attending their first nude event but I feel that if you have already made the decision to attend a nude event, the best thing to do is to just get naked and experience it. If, after a reasonable amount of time, you’re not comfortable and it’s not for you, then get dressed and make a graceful exit.
Generally speaking, nudists are very friendly folks and won’t be judging you on how your body looks. Chances are, you’ll likely stand out if you’re the only one wearing a swimsuit. Join in the fun and after a few minutes, you’ll probably forget that you’re naked.
I can only speak from my own experience. I was nervous and apprehensive when I went to my first nudist outing and I almost turned around and went home. But once I arrived, I took my clothes off and my apprehension disappeared almost immediately. I discovered that, for me, being nude with others felt so liberating, so comfortable, and so natural that I did not want to get dressed again for the drive home.
I guess I’m a bit old school in my views of naturism. If you’re attending a nudist event or visiting a nudist location, you’ve already made a commitment to experience naturism (nudism). Should you decide it’s not for you after all, no harm done.
Today is December 30, 2016, the penultimate day of the year, a day I review and contemplate the events of the year and, hopefully, set goals and intentions for the coming year.
It was another year in which I didn’t actively participate in social nudity. While I would have liked to have visited nearby venues or traveled northeast to hike Chautauqua Gorge, other things came up or the effort and expense didn’t seem worthwhile. Essentially, other things in my life took priority over getting naked with strangers. Will that change in 2017? I won’t even try to make a prediction. I suspect that getting naked with others will likely remain a low priority.
This year my financial situation changed drastically and I began reevaluating my memberships and subscriptions. Among the memberships that fell under the magnifying glass were my AANR and TNS memberships. Although I appreciate the work they do for nudism and naturism in general, I had to evaluate them from a more personal level. Was continued membership worth $50 to $60 each on the off chance that I might find my way to Cedar Trails, Paradise Gardens, or Sunshower Country Club for a day of social nudity? This year, I decided they didn’t. Maybe next year, I might chose one or the other.
In October I learned of the existence of a non-landed club, Dayton Warm Breezes, that’s practically in my back yard. I’ve made contact with them but, thus far, I have not been able to attend one of their events. The October swim would have been an ideal opportunity but it was canceled due to problems with the pool. The November and December events at member homes conflicted with other engagements. Their next swim is scheduled for mid-January. Maybe I can make it to that. In the meantime, my interest in joining fluctuates from one day to another. Getting naked with others, as much as I miss it, isn’t really a high priority these days.
Over the year, my ideas and attitudes about nudism and naturism have evolved. Actually, they’ve been evolving for several years but this year I really began to give it more thought and write more about it as can be seen in several of this year’s posts. Rather than reiterate them here, you can go back through the posts and read them yourselves.
One change I made to my blog was to only allow comments for the first 30 days after an article has been posted. It resulted in a significant reduction of spam comments. I might miss some legitimate comments but I figured that if no one commented within the first 30 days, I wasn’t likely to get any.
What does it look like for getting naked in 2017? To tell the truth, I haven’t a clue. I’ll continue to be nude when I can and I’ll continue to promote nudity as our natural state and advocate the legalization and decriminalization of simple nudity.
I still see the need for less anonymity and secrecy among nudists within nudist groups and in social media. As nudists and naturists, we proclaim that the unclothed human body is natural and decent and that being naked is not shameful, yet we insist on anonymity and secrecy in pursuing our clothes-free lifestyle or activities. People are naturally suspicious of any activity surrounded by anonymity and secrecy.
I think it’s about time we learned to live with the ever-present technology that nearly all us possess, namely mobile phones. Personal privacy has become a very rare and precious commodity. That’s a reality and we have to learn to deal with it. Banning mobile phones or any other device that might have a camera at nudist events and venues seems short-sighted and, ultimately, not very practical. Pictorially documenting my naturist activities as I would equivalent activities in a clothed environment shouldn’t be difficult or even impossible. Shouldn’t we have more trust, respect, and accountability among ourselves?
Sorry for getting up on my soapbox but those are but a couple of my frustrations with the current nudist paradigms.
After leaving TrueNudists a couple years ago (it may have been longer ago) I joined again about three months ago. I filled out my profile, added a profile picture, and joined a couple of groups but other than that, I haven’t been particularly active. I’ve browsed through the forums without finding much of interest, mostly the same discussions that were ongoing during my previous time with the site. Essentially, it hasn’t changed. I took a look at the chat and with so many people on and discussing so many topics, how is one supposed to engage anyone in a discussion?
They are still encouraging members to upgrade to a paid membership and to become “certified” nudists. I went through the certification process when I was previously a member but I don’t have any intent to go through it again. I know it would open up areas of the site for me but I’m not feeling any particular need to access them. It might also be an act of rebellion on my part. I don’t feel any need to certify or prove to anyone that I am a “genuine” nudist. It’s a primitive and ineffective vetting process and it means nothing. I know I’m a genuine nudist and I have been for the past decade.
Like most other nudist sites I’ve joined, I’ll probably just log in occasionally to keep my membership active, maybe post something now and then. Sometimes I just don’t see the point in it.