One Thing I’ve Wondered About Nudists
A non-nudist blogger asked, “How do men who are nudists avoid getting erections?” That seems to be a fair question. I’ve read other articles about nudism that he’s written and he genuinely seems to want to understand why people practice nudism.
One thing I’ve wondered about nudists:
How do men who are nudists avoid getting erections?
I would think that a man would be having frequent orgasms because of the female nudity that he is seeing in a place like a nudist camp.
I’ve heard that people bring towels to places like nudist camps, in order to keep germs from spreading. I imagine it isn’t a good feeling to sit on a towel that’s been covered with semen, since a man has to wipe himself clean with it so many times, or make frequent trips to the bathroom in order to clean himself or experience his orgasms in private. And I imagine it would also be awkward for a man to be introduced to a nudist woman, and for her to clearly see that he is experiencing an orgasm because of her naked body.
I imagine that many “textiles” living in a world where they are constantly bombarded by sexual imagery in advertising and entertainment media and have been taught since a young age that the human body is shameful and that seeing nudity invariably leads to sexual arousal, impure thoughts, temptation, or intercourse.
I can’t speak for anyone else but I’ve never really given much thought to how I avoid getting erections in a nudist setting. I’ve never gotten an erection in a nudist setting and I’ve never seen anyone else get one either. I don’t now how I do it and I don’t make any sort of conscious effort to avoid it; it just hasn’t happened to me.
I haven’t found nudist settings to be sexually charged or erotic even when surrounded by people I might find sexually attractive. There isn’t a sexual vibe. I find more of a sexual vibe at a public pool or beach. where everyone is in a swimming costume. Some swimsuits barely cover what needs to be covered under the law and often draws attention to those places causing one to wonder what’s underneath. Of course, we all know what’s underneath but that it’s hidden in a revealing way lets our imaginations run while. In a nudist environment, nothing is hidden and we see that it’s pretty much the same as everyone else’s. It’s not a big deal.
I’ve found that nudism/naturism is attitude and a mindset where being nude is just another option and, after a while, it feels normal and comfortable. For some the normality and comfort comes sooner than for others. Remember that our largest sex organ is our brain, our mind. We have control over our thoughts.
Today Facebook presented me with the following memory from seven years ago:
“Had that dream where I was the only one naked. In this dream everyone was totally oblivious to my nudity. It was no big deal. Cool, eh?”
In the past decade, I haven’t found the infamous naked dream to be about insecurity, fear, and embarrassment. My naked dreams are usually the exact opposite. They’re about confidence, freedom, and comfort. In my naked dreams, I’m usually engaged in normal, everyday activities and generally no one takes notices of my nudity, even if I’m the only one naked. It’s a shame that the real world isn’t more like the clothing optional world of my dreams.
Yet another day set aside to do something naked. Reading, like so many other activities, is something that I prefer to do whilst in my natural state yet, due to infringements from the textile world, do not not have enough opportunities to pursue it in in that way. Today was no exception. Life goes on and sometimes leisure activities, both clothed and unclothed, must yield to more pressing matters or circumstances do no allow for optimum conditions.
Maybe next year. But then again, why do I need a special day to peruse a tome whilst devoid cumbersome clothing? All I need is a good book and some privacy. Free the mind and the body.
Apparently, today is National Camera Day and in my Twitter feed I saw that AANR-West was promoting the day with images of nudists wielding cameras which struck me as a bit ironic considering that many nudist venues prohibit or restrict the possession or use of cameras on their grounds. Some venues ban photography entirely while others require that all photos be taking by a staff member. I’m sure policies range from strict and draconian to some that are are more liberal.
I understand that some people need to protect their privacy; they don’t want family/friends/employers to discover their proclivity for being nude among others. Nor does anyone want their images appearing on some random porn site. I get it. But, at the same time, I’d like to have photographic memories of my leisure and vacation activities at nudist venues and events just as I would when visiting a textile resort or beach.
In our society cameras are ubiquitous as nearly everyone has a cellphone and every cellphone has a built-in camera. Between the omnipresence of the camera and social media, whatever veil of privacy we have is very thin and transparent, almost nonexistent. Sadly, too many in our society lack ethical standards, moral fiber, and respect for others, and they would exploit another’s vulnerability for their own personal advantage or just pure meanness. Privacy has become a scarce commodity and needs to be guarded. However, it can never be guaranteed. Whatever secrets we may harbor, there’s a very good chance that we will eventually be outed.
Banning cameras and cellphones at nudist parks and resorts isn’t reasonable or viable. On the other hand, unrestricted photography isn’t going work well either. There has to be a workable solution somewhere in between. There needs to be an atmosphere of trust and respect among nudists. I know that sounds Utopian and I guess it is. But we can’t live in fear that some bad person, our boss, our family, or our friends might see us in our natural state. We need to let go of our fear. For some, letting go of it is easy while for others it’s quite difficult and we need to respect that.
Fear invades and permeates our lives daily. I see the fear all around me and often I can feel in in the air. I long for a place where I can be free and fearless, even if only for a short time. And when I’m in that place I want to be able do document my experience to show others that such places do exist and that they, too, can be as free and fearless.
Dirt Road Naturism – An Issue of Public Safety? by Robert Longpré
I like the idea of dirt road naturism. It would, by necessity, have to be practiced in rural areas either individually or in very small groups with the consent of the landowners. I’m sure there would be other logistical things to work out as well.
When I was in my teens, I’d often hike into the pastures and the woods beyond. In the woods, I’d come across creeks and streams and, occasionally, a small pond. There would no tractor paths or even foot trails. They were ideal places to strip down and cool off on a hot summer day. I never saw another soul in these places. That’s my idea of naturism, relaxing in nature, in my natural state. Not a sound except the chirping of the birds overhead, the rustling of the leaves in the breeze, and water rushing over the rocks in the creek — a Walden-esque paradise. I’m certain Thoreau skinny-dipped in Walden Pond.
There need to be places like this where we can go off by ourselves or in small groups to unplug, unwind, and let go of all crap we carry around with us.
I couldn’t see myself taking part in a World Naked Bike Ride type event. I’d feel as if I was on display, naked for the spectator’s amusement as they righteously condemned me for having the audacity to be so free. Nor could I see myself participating in a Spencer Tunick installation.
I’m sensing that a profound shift in our paradigms of how we view gender and sexuality is occurring. It’s been going on for quite a while and it may still be many years before the old paradigms are replaced. Conservatives, especially in political and religious arenas, have been the most resistant to these changes as they cling onto the old binary stereotypes of masculinity, femininity, and sexual orientation. Despite our glorification of modern technology, the world is not binary and never has been. Our cultures and our institutions have tried to force everyone and everything into rigid molds in which everything is classified as one thing or another. What doesn’t fit into one mold or the other is either forcefully stuffed into a mold or rejected entirely, cast out and demonized.
It’s been my own experience and observation that the most interesting people and things exist somewhere between the extremes. People are beginning to recognize the diversity and fluidity that exists in the middle, a spectrum where our preconceived ideas about gender roles, gender identity, sexual preferences are becoming more and more irrelevant. What difference does it make that Bruce Jenner, former Olympic athlete, identifies as a woman and is now Caitlyn? So what if a boy who identifies himself as a male, likes girls’ things? What does a person’s gender or sexual preference have to do with his or her ability to do a job? I’m more concerned with what kind of person they are, how they treat others, and how well they do their jobs.
Anyone or anything on either extreme is an outlier, not the norm, and, statistically, should be disregarded as irrelevant.
There is no right way or wrong way in spite of what various groups try to convince us. If there is a right way, it is decided on a personal level of one person. Any attempt to control others in terms of wearing or not wearing clothing is the real issue. Simple nudity that is simply being present in the world, is not the real threat that so many worry about. Rather, it is the issue that the nudity has control objectives that are aimed at others – a sexual agenda or other power agenda. One has to examine one’s motive for reacting to the nudity of another person, or one’s own nudity. Therein lays the answers.
Robert G. Longpré, Naturist Lens: The Problem of Trying to Control Others
Simple, casual nudity on my part poses no actual threat to anyone nor does it infringe on anyone’s rights. If people feel threatened or offended by my nakedness, it’s likely due to insecurities and feelings of inadequacy within their own selves. I have a pretty good understanding of my motives for wanting to be naked but you have to examine your motives for your reaction to it.
If I have any kind of agenda in being naked, it’s to enjoy personal freedom, to feel secure and comfortable in my own skin, and to be at peace with my natural state. My nudity has no other agendas; it’s not about sex or power. I’m not trying to control you or convince you that you should be naked although I’d certainly encourage you to experience it for yourself. If I can be comfortable wearing clothes why shouldn’t you at least make an honest attempt at being comfortable without them. Clothing is not natural. To be nude is to be in our natural state, our default state. Clothing is an aberration of our natural state. It may sometimes be necessary but it’s always an aberration.
Yesterday I read a couple of blog posts talking abouts things the authors would like to do in the nude before they die. I’ve probably made such a list at some point but I’ve probably forgotten most of what was on the list. Priorities have changed. To be able to freely live a nude lifestyle without judgment and sanctions is more important than checking off a list of nude activities just to say I’ve done them.
However, given the reality that I don’t live in a society in which I can freely exercise the option to be nude with impunity, I do have one item on my nude bucket list, to take, at least annually, a nude vacation. I’m not talking about a nude cruise or a visit to a nude resort in some exotic location although those would undoubtedly be great experiences. My idea of a nude vacation might not necessarily be to a naturist camp or park. My nude vacation would be somewhere a bit removed from civilization in general, a place where I could be in my natural unclothed state for the duration of my stay, a place where I would be in my natural state amidst natural surroundings.
Nude recreation is all well and good but as promoted by our national nudist organizations, leaves me wanting for something more substantial. What I’m looking for in a nude vacation is nude solitude in which I could sleep, hike, skinny-dip, sunbathe, meditate, practice yoga, write, or whatever. A vacation in which I could completely relax, where I wouldn’t beholden to any schedule. To me, a nude vacation would be time spent undoing the damage incurred by “civilized” society. A retreat such as this should be at least an annual or semi-annual excursion.
Yes, I need to look into this, even if it’s only a weekend or a few days.
Earlier this week I Received a ransom note from the cyber-terrorist who hacked the Nudist Clubhouse site. It included a sampling of posts I’d made on the site.
For a mere .02 bitcoins, which I understand is about $6, he promises to remove my data that he stole from the Nudist Clubhouse server from his system. If I don’t pay (and I have no intention of doing so), he said he will send my information and my posts out to some 400,000 email addresses he has in his database.
So he sends my posts and pictures to 400,000 people around the world who probably don’t know me or even give a shit that I get naked. I’ve been public about my nudism and my naturist activities for years. Any pictures I may have had on the site have also been posted elsewhere.
I’m sure that whatever data this guy has is rather old as I haven’t been active on Nudist Clubhouse in several years. I had a premier membership for a short time but gave it up when I discovered that its limited benefits didn’t seem to justify the cost.